As it occurs these days, I texted my friend William to see how things were looking up for him. In the past few months he has experienced a great amount of life events (thats the sociological term). Some of them great blessings and joys others sorroful, but embedded in each an enormous amount of emotional, psychological and physical strain. In our subsequent phone coversation, we discussed a myriad of things from graduate paper topics, navigating cohort politics and the whole landscape of academia and our personal belief systems. Both of us are Christian, in particular I am Catholic, and he is in best terms non-denominational Christian with a Baptist upbringing.
Thankfully our friendship has been a blessing so that the religious hostile or indifference pervasive in academia does not suffocate us. We both have had to navigate through the treacherous waters of post-modern without fully being swept away in it’s seductive ideology. At times at least for myself I can often find myself practically scared and worried, as if in a dark dark forest, not knowing if what I see in the darkness is true, much less God’s existence. I close my mind thinking that it is in fact’s God’s existence that keeps me sane, even in the dark shadowy world that surrounds me.
Many years back I had walked away from God. At least I doubted about how much he was a fiction of my culture’s imagination. And I doubted that I had truly freely chosen to believe in God, perhaps it had been a simple chance of my being born to a particular family with a Catholic background. What about the others? Those who did not believe or believed differently? What would happen to them? Can I believe in such a God who would damn people to hell simply becuase they did not have the same opportunities to be Catholic as I had? This line of thinking make sense if you are in sociological science and being to be educated about social constructions.
So I left and I searched and learned about other religions that for me seemed more benevolent to those who were unknowing to them. I watched different Christian programming, read about Buddhism and visited temples. Ironically I still attended Mass out of a sense of normalcy, although it was surreal. My vantaget point of Mass was one of being an outsider, a stranger. I didn’t not take communion or even say the prayers, I simply sat in the midst of the entire faithful, thinking, almost envying the evidence of faith to what was transpiring.
Then one day in my journal I wrote the words of how I truly felt.
I miss God.
My friend William, during our phone conversation, retold a significant conversation that occurred between me and home over 8 years ago. I have faintest recollection of this conversation (depression and depression meds tend to create holes in ones memories). William discussed about how his research might affect his faith life and if may evidently lead him to agnosticism or atheism. But then he says he remember a conversation where some said, don’t worry, you’ll miss God and that will always call you back to him. Ridiculously enough I asked him, who told you that?…He reponse to me: “You did.” Wow, i don’t remember the conversation yet the sentiment sits in the back of my mind. It is strange how we witness our faith in God to others even when our faith is uncertain and troubled.
I can only thank God for having me miss him, so that I may be able to love HIM.